tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-864210504728239262024-03-08T12:23:15.614-08:00Under the Copper MoonKelly Linzeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285610090974566993noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86421050472823926.post-44148694900683244142012-02-15T02:13:00.000-08:002012-02-15T02:15:21.309-08:00It's a question of Identity...<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">When my father retired from working at the phone company he was made to take 2 years off from working as part of his retirement/separation plan. At some point he start to have issues of identity. Who was he if he wasn't a phone guy. How does one define ones self if ones self is so tied up in the title that one has had for most of ones life?<br />
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I watched him suffer depression and confusion. He went on and with my mother bought a glass company and became a great boss. Still, I believe Dad suffered issues with identity the rest of his life.<br />
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I bring this point up because I too am suffering from a question of identity. What defines me as me. What do I want the world to know about me and what don't I want them to know. The biggest of all the questions about identity I have is who or what do I want to be.<br />
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Do you remember when you were just starting out? It could of been your first job or going off to college or moving out of your parents place. That feeling that anything is possible? I am sorta experiencing that feeling all over again. I don't know where I'll end up or what I'll do but I have this feeling if I really wanted to I could do anything be anything and be anyone I wanted and that is a powerful feeling to have. It certainly makes all this upset over the denial worth going through. <br />
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Some definitions of me:<br />
Woman<br />
White<br />
Middle Class<br />
Lesbian<br />
Poet<br />
Artist<br />
Writer<br />
Philosopher<br />
Dreamer<br />
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As I heal and grow I know I will remember or add more names to the list... <br />
</div>Kelly Linzeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285610090974566993noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86421050472823926.post-59652418100974736042012-02-15T01:49:00.000-08:002012-02-15T01:49:27.632-08:00Sitting in the Rubble<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">It seems like forever has passed and I can look back and wonder how my life has ended up in this place. I've mostly just been treading water and today I got the answer that I didn't want. I got the hard answer. The answer that means I have to become kinetic from a practically non moving state of being. Today I was told after battling the social security office (since 2002) that no they will not grant me disability benefits regardless of what my current doctors or even my past doctors have said. Many of the reasons given to me were statements taken out of context.. and I am unable to even defend myself. Unable to fight for my right for help and why should I continue to fight? <br />
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With this denial comes a sense of grief but also a sense of release. I fear for my future and am terrified that I can't rise to the occasion. It hasn't been easy in the past and now I'm being forced out of my shell.. a shell that was built to keep me safe. The world its self is a caustic and dramatic place that often drives me to hide in my peaceful home. I am unsure what path to take unsure of where to go or what to do now. This denial blows the doors off of my life. In this rubble I sit dazed unsure and confused.<br />
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From this state I have to start to come up with some kind of plan or even plans. I haven't the foggiest idea what I'm going to do next. I feel numb with flares of anger, sadness, fear, relief and hope. I thought if this should happen that I'd be suicidal like I've been with past denials but so far that has not happened. I think for the most part I feel relief...<br />
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So now what? I don't really know... I think I'll just sit and heal a bit more before I climb out of the rubble. </div>Kelly Linzeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285610090974566993noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86421050472823926.post-3672525232671262182011-12-06T02:09:00.000-08:002011-12-06T02:09:19.100-08:00Where did Piss Poor come from?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"> <br />
<div> <div style="background: white;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Times New Roman; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: black; font-size: 10pt;"></span></span> My Mom sent this to me via an email and I found it interesting so thought I'd share it with all of you...</div></div><div> <div style="background: white;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Times New Roman; font-size: medium;"><span style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt;"><br />
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Interesting History<br />
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They used to use urine to tan animal skins, so families<br />
used to all pee in a pot & then once a day it was taken and<br />
Sold to the tannery . . . if you had to do this to survive<br />
You were "Piss Poor"<br />
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But worse than that were the really poor folk who couldn't<br />
even afford to buy a pot . . . they "didn't have a pot to<br />
piss in" & were the lowest of the low.<br />
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The next time you are washing your hands and complain<br />
because the water temperature isn't just how you like it,<br />
think about how things used to be. Here are some facts about<br />
the 1500's:<br />
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Most people got married in June because they took their<br />
yearly bath in May, and they still smelled pretty good by<br />
June. However, since they were starting to smell . . ...<br />
Brides carried a bouquet of flowers to hide the body odor.<br />
Hence the custom today of carrying a bouquet when getting<br />
Married.<br />
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Baths consisted of a big tub filled with hot water. The man<br />
of the house had the privilege of the nice clean water, then<br />
all the other sons and men, then the women and finally the<br />
children. Last of all the babies. By then the water was so<br />
dirty you could actually lose someone in it. Hence the<br />
saying, "Don't throw the baby out with the Bath water!"<br />
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Houses had thatched roofs - thick straw - piled high, with no<br />
wood underneath. It was the only place for animals to get<br />
warm, so all the cats and other small animals (mice, bugs)<br />
lived in the roof. When it rained it became slippery and<br />
sometimes the animals would slip and fall off the roof . ... .<br />
Hence the saying "It's raining cats and dogs."<br />
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There was nothing to stop things from falling into the<br />
house. This posed a real problem in the bedroom where bugs<br />
and other droppings could mess up your n! ice clean bed. Hence,</span></span></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div><div> <div> <div> <div> <div> <div style="background: #e4e4e4; line-height: 14.4pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Times New Roman; font-size: medium;"><span style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt;">a bed with big posts and a sheet hung over the top<br />
afforded some protection. That's how canopy beds came into<br />
existence.<br />
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The floor was dirt. Only the wealthy had something other<br />
than dirt. Hence the saying, "Dirt poor." The wealthy had<br />
slate floors that would get slippery in the winter when wet,<br />
so they spread thresh (straw) on floor to help keep their<br />
footing. As the winter wore on, they added more thresh until,</span></span></div></div></div></div></div></div><div id="yui_3_2_0_1_1323145937680552"> <div id="yui_3_2_0_1_1323145937680549"> <div id="yui_3_2_0_1_1323145937680546"> <div id="yui_3_2_0_1_1323145937680543"> <div id="yui_3_2_0_1_1323145937680540" style="background: #e4e4e4; line-height: 14.4pt;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Times New Roman; font-size: medium;"><span style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt;">when you opened the door, it would all start slipping<br />
outside. A piece of wood was placed in the entrance-way.<br />
Hence: a thresh hold.<br />
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(Getting quite an education, aren't you?)<br />
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In those old days, they cooked in the kitchen with a big<br />
kettle that always hung over the fire. Every day they lit<br />
the fire and added things to the pot. They ate mostly<br />
vegetables and did not get much meat. They would eat the<br />
stew for dinner, leaving leftovers in the pot to get cold<br />
overnight and then start over the next day. Sometimes the stew<br />
had food in it that had been there for quite a while. Hence<br />
the rhyme: Peas porridge hot, peas porridge cold, peas<br />
porridge in the pot nine days old. Sometimes they could<br />
obtain pork, which made them feel quite special. When<br />
visitors came over, they would hang up their bacon to show<br />
off. It was a sign of wealth that a man could, "bring home<br />
the bacon." They would cut off a little to share with guests<br />
and wo! uld all sit around and chew the fat.<br />
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Those with money had plates made of pewter. Food with high<br />
acid content caused some of the lead to leach onto the food,<br />
causing lead poisoning death. This happened most often with<br />
tomatoes, so for the next 400 years or so, tomatoes were<br />
considered poisonous.<br />
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Bread was divided according to status. Workers got the burnt<br />
bottom of the loaf, the family got the middle, and guests<br />
got the top, or the upper crust.<br />
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Lead cups were used to drink ale or whisky. The combination would Sometimes knock the imbibers out for a couple of days.<br />
Someone walking along the road would take them for dead and prepare them for burial. They were laid out on the kitchen table for a couple of days and the family would gather around and eat and drink and wait and see if they would wake up. Hence the custom of holding a wake.<br />
</span></span><span style="color: black; font-size: medium;"><span style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt;"><span class="yshortcuts" id="lw_1323146001_5">England</span></span></span><span id="yui_3_2_0_1_1323145937680537" style="color: black; font-size: medium;"><span id="yui_3_2_0_1_1323145937680534" style="color: black; font-size: 13.5pt;"> is old and small and the local folks started running<br />
out of places to bury people. So they would dig up coffins<br />
and would take the bones to a bone-house, and reuse the<br />
grave. When reopening these coffins, 1 out of 25 coffins<br />
were found to have scratch marks on the inside and they<br />
realized they had been burying people alive . . . So they would tie a string on the wrist of the corpse, lead it through the coffin and up through the ground and tie it to a bell.<br />
Someone would have to sit out in the graveyard all night<br />
(the graveyard shift.) to listen for the bell; thus, someone<br />
could be, saved by the bell or was considered a dead ringer.<br />
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And that's the truth . . . ... Now, whoever said History was boring!!!<br />
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So . . . get out there and educate someone! ~~~ Share these<br />
facts with a friend.</span></span></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div>Kelly Linzeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285610090974566993noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86421050472823926.post-6722281694438539592011-09-08T00:28:00.000-07:002011-09-08T00:28:22.864-07:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">I went out today and purposely bought a belt. My body's shape has changed and it's a wonderful joyful feeling to actually be able to put on a store bought belt. Clothes continue to fall off of me. I am hopeful that in a years time I will be where I want to be.<br />
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Art is going well. I am enjoying the peace I find while being creative. I sometimes ok I often get anxious about the end results but when I can just sit back and just do I feel very very relaxed. Today I worked some more on my ceramics finishing up the small pieces and did the first 2 coats on 1 of the larger pieces. Those are all waiting to be fired. Hopefully with in the next few days. Don't know what i'll be doing there tomorrow or friday but I'm sure I'll come up with something... Oh I do need to do a second coat of varnish on my postcards box.<br />
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I must remember to send off letter/card to J. from art tomorrow! <br />
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Or the warm salty waters of the gulf.Kelly Linzeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285610090974566993noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86421050472823926.post-60428756528740777052011-05-30T05:54:00.001-07:002011-05-30T05:54:23.375-07:00My first post on my new blog...<div class="post-header"> </div>For years I've been blogging on Live Journal but I've been wanting to move on to a different place. Somewhere new and more representative to where my life is now vs. where I used to be. Life is ever changing. I've struggled my whole life with that one concept. Change has always scared me and fear has often ruled my life. Yet I know that change is a part of the life cycle. I've come to appreciate its quiet majesty in the ways of nature. This love of natures beauty has often helped me by offering the peace and quiet of wind blowing through the trees. I can't tell you how many times I sat enjoying watching my mountain in Flagstaff. Yet life has moved on and here I am living in the desert in Tempe Arizona and it is so very different. The beauty here is so different. I found it yesterday in the gray streaked morning skies as rain danced down upon the dry dusty ground and I find it in the desert flowers that are drying up now that summer has come. My favorites are the desert daisies and the California poppies. I just love their friendly faces. They make me feel just full of happiness and joy. I think these are the things I strive to have around me... things that bring me joy, peace, calmness.Kelly Linzeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18285610090974566993noreply@blogger.com0